18 April 2019

P is Privacy

Hello and Welcome to my sixth attempt at the AtoZ blogging challenge.
My theme this year is Caring for the Caregiver. My posts are based on my experience and are not meant to be a comprehensive guide on the subject. I would love to hear your experiences..
You can catch up with my previous posts here.
With each post, I am sharing a sketch that I have done as a means for stress busting. 

Privacy
As age increases, mobility issues creep in. Often elders are unable to carry out their basic care for themselves like having a bath, using the toilet, changing clothes, eating and so on. Irrespective of who helps them (we as care givers or professional helpers), these moments can be extremely embarrassing for our wards. It needs great sensitivity and empathy to tide over this phase. 

Similarly, as care givers, we too need to have some privacy and the best way is to have a space which becomes like an oasis to retreat to. It can be our home or any other place where we can be ourselves, unwind, vent our thoughts and clear our minds. This will be the care givers a neutral, happy space, an Oasis as it were to escape to. 
If our wards continue to live in their own homes, then everyone has their own space and privacy. 
Obviously, this may not always be possible. 

However, as I said before...
There is no one size fits all solution. 
Every family has to find something that suits them best. 
At best, posts such as mine will inspire a family to come up with their unique workable plan.

My sketch for the day

This has been inspired by a Coir Coaster at my Mum's place.
Meet you again tomorrow with the S post.
Stay Happy!

6 comments:

kalpana solsi said...

The inspiration form the coaster is beautiful. I remember having read that the care-giver (wife) was so tensed with taking care of her bedridden husband that she hired a professional to take care of 2 hours everyday while she went with her friends etc . This way she kept her sanity intact.



Susan B said...

Thank you Archana, for this post. The greatest fear for the elderly is to be considered a child once more and treated as one, I feel. It can be so degrading to still have all one’s wits about us, but a body that constantly lets you down. I greatly admire your job as a caregiver. To fing the right balance between helping and infantilizing.
Beautiful sketch. It looks like a Mandala.
Enjoy the rest of the AtoZ. Hope to have time to visit you again.
Susan.

Lael said...

That coaster is so cool!

Archana said...

@Kalpana Yes, professional helpers is a very good idea. In our family, we have hired them at different occassions especially for 24X7 care of elder. It gave the immediate family members some 'sanity' as you have so very aptly put it! So happy you could stop by Kalpana!

Archana said...

@Susan Thank you for your comment ! :-) So glad that you have been liked reading my posts! In our case ((my husband and I)- caregiving has not been a choice but we have accepted it that we are the ones who have to take this on. These 26 posts are from the experiences we have faced.

Archana said...

THank you Lael! :-)